Saturday, December 1, 2012

Love is blind... spots


Very interesting conversation driving  out last evening with my 2 girl friends. Love, happens, they said, when you see imperfections – the dark side of the moon – the loony bend. It’s tough to like someone perfect.

Proof? Research says 9 out of 10 men think their partners are not perfect (Hmph – need glasses, don’t they?) but –here’s the whopper! They like them like that! Imperfect!

And more proof! A couple of years back, we did a ‘house-building’ school project at home for  Neel  –all of us together.  Orange juice carton skyscrapers which kept toppling over, windows that kept coming unstuck and grass that was shedding faster than cat’s fur. So, running into school with our buildings that looked earthquake-struck, we saw high heels come out of a big car. And another mom sweeps out with immaculate hair and an immaculate Swiss villa – complete with darling little lamp-posts and a charming chimney! I hated her and her villa on sight!

Jealousy? Of course! We’re human, and we like other humans! We can admire someone who’s perfect, or pray to them, or even follow them on Twitter. But friends – Nah!

Back to my 2 girlfriends in the car – quite accidentally,  I needed to test their theory at once. I had a migraine and was sick as a cow on the way home, moaning, groaning for almost an hour, including stopping the car to gurgle and gush into a roadside drain. They saw my imperfections all right, right back till last night’s dinner. And they were still nice to me!

33 comments:

  1. LOL!!! So that's why you puked...to test your friends, eh?
    About the Swiss villa, I can draw one too many parallels during our tryst with projects...:-(. Oh how I perfectly hated those perfect ones.
    Back to the puke-a-thon, blame it on the fry-yumms and the boiss at the back screaming in 'Indian' style!!
    Hope you are feeling sunny again...:-)

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    1. Shalini, feeling tops now, and actually enjoyed the conversation, if not the way my head was feeling!

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  2. I would not have you for my friend if you were perfect!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  3. Interesting observation and good food for thought! I liked this :-)))

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  4. Profound subject with your inimitable stamp of real humour.... love love love

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  6. of course love is blind - we loved our babies before they were born?!!!! Welcome back, purfffeccct jandy!

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    1. who said keya baby isn't perfect?!!! huh? HUH?

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  7. points to ponder indeed :)
    love... imperfections...friendships.
    what a boring existence it would be if there was perfection and no jealousy and no urge for 'need to know'
    friends with imperfections are a blessing and a joy.
    yes, love is blind :D

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    1. and we've got enough examples from within our class itself, right, sms?

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  8. loving each of ur posts ! and that humor! nicey! did u really puke to test ur girlfrens :D

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    1. i most certainly puked all the way home :)

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  9. Your post got me thinking.I think I miss more of the imperfect bits of the people I love..even though I might seem to hate it for the moment but when I look back it's always that which gets a smile on my face. Funny! :)

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    1. True. It's the imperfect bits that are unique I guess. The perfect bits are the same in everyone

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  10. I have to agree, both about hubby's feelings and about friends. Where's the fun with perfection ;) ?

    Sooo looking forward to reading more from you all this month!

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    1. thanks aparna - am finding it most difficult to post every day. You?

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  11. Pefection is an illusion, especially in relationships! At least I am yet to see a perfect relationship. We human beings are designed to be flawed me thinks, otherwise jealousy would take an all together new level!! But thank god for those imperfect friends and spouses, life is wonderful :) Loved reading this!!

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  12. The Villa thing happened last evening to me, even after being a 28 yr old I was J to look at a 10 yr old coming out of the most perfect house I have ever see :P Lovely post.

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  13. glad to know we passed ur (gastric) acid test!!!

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  14. Glad to know we passed ur (gastric) acid test!!

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  15. what a way to test friends, will keep in mind when we meet next ;):P

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    1. heh, Monika. Promise not to puke all over you.

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